Day 11_Difference Maker

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Did you do something to treat yourself well yesterday or today?

If so, what was it?

If not, what got in the way, and will you try it today?

About yesterday's challenge, did you do something kind for someone you respect?

If you completed the task, then what did you do?

How did the person respond to your gesture?

OR
If you didn't do the challenge, then have you scheduled something? What and when?

If you completed it, then how did you feel doing it?

OR
If you didn't do it, then how do you feel about following through with it?

Would you do something like this again for someone who's helped you out?

OR
If you haven't completed the task yet, skip to Step 6.

Speaking of feelings, let's revisit those nagging thoughts playing in your head.

* What have they been telling you lately?
* What are you telling them?
* Who's winning?

If you don't already have someone, then look around you for a person who can help you sort things out in your life on a continual basis.

This person’s role is simply to help you figure out the tough stuff. They should be able to get to the one or two simple strategies that help you move forward.

You can start looking for this person right where you are.

The person could be a CASA, Guardian ad Litem, pastor, former teacher, principal, coach, grandparent or other older but safe relative, foster parent, older neighbor, your boss, etc. You get the idea. Older means at least 10 to 15 years older - this gives them time to gain the experience that you are getting ready to borrow from.

The goal is simply to talk to them. Just listen to what they say and watch how they deal with life's challenges. It's a natural process and one you can learn a lot from.

Are you interested in taking the time to find that someone who can help you sort through life's issues?

You don't have to make a formal request to the person. The old school way is to just hang with them.

Ask questions. Get to know them more. Bring up an issue you have that's giving you some trouble. See how they respond.

Even if you said no to the idea, do you see the value in finding someone who has leadership qualities that you could learn from?

Who could be on your short list as a go-to for meaningful conversations?

If there just isn't anyone available to fill that role for you now, or you're not ready to open up yet, then will you keep doing these steps every day and engage with other people on this site's Campfire group (people like you who are close in age and who live near you).

You could also go bigger and join our Campsite (Next Step Social Impact nationwide group). And you could go seriously large and join our Campground (Next Step Social Impact international group).

The difference maker is in working things out with people who have solutions you may not have thought about yet.

Are you in?

If you haven't already joined a Next Step Camp, would you consider it?

Post your email to us in the last open space below. We'll send you the link(s) via share@navitent.com. Click and you're in.

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Willing?