Day 6_The Facts

Hi!

Today's steps are meant to help you feel better about yourself and the future you have in front of you.

As part of the process, the occasional tough question can help you realize where you are at this point.

Take the quiz below. Be very honest.

Do you feel the need to:
1-Be right in every circumstance?
2-Be first in everything you do?
3-Be constantly in control?
4-Be perfect or avoid criticism at any cost?
5-Be loved by everyone?
6-Be possessive?
7-Avoid conflict and frustration at the expense of how you honestly feel?
8-Change others to meet your needs?
9-Manipulate others for fear you won't get your needs met any other way?
10-Blame others for things that go wrong?
11-Dominate others (i.e., talk over them, belittle them to make you look better than they are, or issue orders to friends or romantic partners, expecting them to obey without question)?

Review your responses as objectively as possible.

A yes on any of these is a tendency towards codependency, which is pretty normal for people who still have some unhealed pain or trauma in their lives.

There's no judgement here. We've all got something.

The intent is to help you discover patterns, so you'll be able to be objective about their effect on you and those around you.

Is there a behavior from the quiz you noticed that you'd like to change?

What would you like to do differently?

It helps a lot if you can find an older, wiser friend - someone you respect a lot - and ask them how they'd describe you. No need to feel embarrassed or defend yourself.

It's a relief to be honest with someone else about a situation that's been difficult to share. The simple act of honest discussion breaks the hold the situation has had over you.

Who can you talk to?

If there's no one around, post to Publisher (us), and we can answer that question. Go ahead. Give us a try.

Which will it be? Older wiser person or older, 'been there' us?

You may post to one of your Camps in addition to the in-person chat and ask what they're doing to change something that may be hard to change.

You might be surprised about the advice and support you receive.

If you post your comments (in first open box near the bottom of this page), then view responses in your inbox icon or the notification (bell) icon.

What will you do?

Peace, my friend.