Why Argue for Your Limitations

The steps that follow are intended to help you master a crucial mindset.

Today is about understanding that you are not defective.

You are not deficient.

There is never a need to argue for your limitations...unless you want to keep them.

It will be very hard to change the way you interact with others or to gain their respect if you think of yourself as 'less than'.

Go to the video icon above to see a really good argument from the film 'La La Land.'

Tell us what you think about the clip when you've finished watching it.

Mia says, “Maybe I'm just not good enough.”

That's a dangerous thing to believe.

How often do tell yourself that?

We hear you. Remember, we couldn't have shared any of this with you if we hadn't struggled with it first.

Now watch the 2nd clip from Les Brown.

How you see yourself is going to influence every area of your life. If you see yourself as 'not good enough', then you've argued for your limitations as Mr. Brown said.

Why do that?

Go back to who you are. Start there.

List every good quality about yourself, everything someone has complemented you on, everything you like. Argue FOR yourself in the space below.

Mr. Brown's words of wisdom:
* "Someone's (negative) opinion of you does not have to become your reality."
* "If you argue for your limitations, you get to keep them."
* Say to yourself, "I deserve the best that life has to offer."
* "I deserve to find my purpose."
* Be Bold
* Whenever you decide to go to the next level, there's going to be turbulence. Fasten your psychological, mental and spiritual seatbelt."
* "There's going to be up times and down times. In the down moments, that's when you discover who you are. In the prosperous times, put it in your pocket. In the lean times, you put it (lessons/determination) in your heart, and that's when you discover who you are."

Did any of Mr. Brown's comments speak to you? Inspire you? Which one(s)?

Have you been arguing for your limitations by the way you treat people or let them treat you?

What do you think would happen if you acted as yourself, comfortable and accepting of who you are - strengths, flaws and all - the total package?

If you'd like to understand more about this subject, go to the "Related" field above and select "Drama Buster".

Do the steps every day for 21 days and see what happens.

Interested?

If you'd like more input, post to Publisher (us!) in the last open box at the bottom of each page.

You can get extra encouragement from your peers by posting to your JP Next Step Campfire, Campsite or Campground.

You'll see the link to the Campground above and to the right.

What's your interest level about doing navitents with a group of your peers?

Before you exit this navitent, we'd like to issue a challenge.

Your challenge is to keep your eyes open to one situation today that typically makes you nervous.

Use that situation to prove that you have what it takes simply by being YOU - strengths, flaws and all - total package.

How strongly do you agree that this is the right challenge for you?